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The Loving Man of God

Watch any modern television show or movie and you will see men portrayed in a number of ways that are anything but what they should be, men.  These versions of men are usually shallow and singularly minded.  Now depending on the plot, these men may be self-focused, dim witted, short sighted, uncaring, chauvinistic, and on I could go.  But even the “good guys” seem shallow and marginally relatable to an actual living breathing male.

Generally, I think there are several different views of what men are to be. Even if I say a loving man or a man of love, that imagery is still not necessarily what I am attempting to get at.  We have to use different terms that better define what we are looking at to get a clearer picture of the contrast in worldview.  And my main categories here are just that, worldviews.

Category 1: The Secular Man

We can break this category down into 2 main subcategories.  We see these in much of our culture.  These are displayed time and again on the most popular television sitcoms and movies.

Subcategory 1: The Brute Man

The Brute Man is best summed up in “big on brawn but light on brains.” You could also describe him as tall and muscular with an overbearing attitude.  Physicality defines the mightiness of one’s manliness.  The old football saying that football is a “man’s man” sport would define the Brute Man’s mentality.  Men of this class can tear apart a car engine with ease and reassemble it, but cannot find their way around the kitchen, or know how to run the washing machine. 

These men are intelligent men in the field of “manly” things, but are not suitable for home living.  They are incapable of grocery shopping or other simple tasks like picking up the kids from school.  The Brute Man can only handle so many tasks in a day and only tasks that are repetitive in nature and require little brain power and, of course, only to his liking.  This is one of the versions that modern man has devolved into.

Subcategory 2: The Domiciled Man

The Domiciled Man is best summed up with the “yes man” adage.  The Domiciled Man does not want to rock the boat, as it were, and so does as he is told no matter how he is treated.  Sometimes he is rewarded for being obedient, but many times it is just expected behavior. Another way to describe this one is as a defeated dog.  The dog still has that drive to be a dog, but when he hears the masters voice, all the fight in the dog melts away.

The Domiciled Man is also portrayed on television and in movies.  He is usually a husband who wants to be the head of the house but is easily “put in his place” by the withholding of food or sex by his wife.  The Domiciled Man tries in vain to hold his ground, to put his foot down.  But inevitably, within days or sometimes within hours, he will cave, and usually to his own humiliation and to the laughter of everyone else. Many standup comedians use this approach; many sitcoms do the same thing.  The Domiciled Man is what all Husbands turn into because of the power that their wives hold over them, through food and sex. 

Category 2: The Biblical Man

The Biblical Man, as I have called him, differs from the Secular Man described above in one major characteristic; his love.  The Biblical Man starts there, with the Bible, the Holy Scripture, the special revelation from God Himself.  And we are image bearers of God.  Therefore, we are to love as He loved.  But before I get into all that let me say this:  God is not a God OF love.  He IS love, but He is also grace, mercy, goodness, and righteousness.  We must not forget that He is a God of judgment, a God of wrath, and He is holy, and one day He will deal with unrepentant sinners.  My point here is that we can only love because He first loved us, 1 John 3:16-18:

 16 We know love by this, that He laid down His life for us; and we ought to lay down our lives for the brethren. 17 But whoever has the world’s goods, and sees his brother in need and closes his heart against him, how does the love of God abide in him? 18 Little children, let us not love with word or with tongue, but in deed and truth.

Verse 16 is the key verse here.  We can only know love because He loved us, we see His example, and should seek to follow it. This means to sacrifice for one another, and not specifically and only speaking of the ultimate sacrifice, but any type of service rendered to a Brother or Sister in Christ.  Verse 17 is an example in how we might live it out, and verse 18 is encouragement that we must go beyond intentions and thoughts.

The Biblical Man is motivated by love to sacrifice for the well-being of others.  He has that love because that love has been placed in him since the Spirit of Christ – the Holy Spirit – resides in him.  We must be motivated by love. The love I am referring to is the love that Jesus Christ demonstrated by leaving the throne of heaven, by living a sorrow-filled life, and by dying on a cross.  This was not an emotional love, the feeling love, that motivated Him.  No, this was a love that interfered in the lives of those who needed His intervention. He loved others so much that He stopped and interjected Himself and His love, grace, and mercy into their lives.  Vast contrast from what so many are demanding we do today in the name of love.  But, men, how are we to love others?  If we are married, we are told very clearly in Ephesians 5:25-29:

 “25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, 26 so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless. 28 So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; 29 for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church.” 

Now, obviously there is a tremendous amount that we could unpack here.  And in context, Paul is writing about what Christ accomplished for the universal foundation of the church on this side of glory.  But marriage is to be a picture of this.  The love and devotion of the husband in the marriage union is to be a picture of what Christ accomplished and the continual relationship between the church and Jesus Christ.

Husbands, love your wives sacrificially.  I know it is difficult, but we are not talking about ‘me’ time.  Men are to be leaders and servants.  You are to demonstrate what it takes to run the house by running the house.  You are to demonstrate unselfish love by loving unselfishly, and “me” time is by definition, selfish. If we look at the meaning of the word husband a little bit, we can get a better understanding of the responsibilities that we have.

Husband is related to the Latin word we get husbandry from and it speaks to the care and cultivation of gardens or crops.  This is the care and cultivation of our wives, continuing to bring her up spiritually.  It means to defend her spiritually, to keeping the weeds and pests and the vermin out that would destroy and eat away at the roots or prevent her from blossoming fully.  This, of course, does not mean that our wives are less valuable than we are, but that they are less than what they can be.  Since men are to be the head and the example, we must be spiritually sound ourselves.  You cannot be a leader in something unless you are knowledgeable. It is just that simple, and simple acts can mean a world of difference to your wives. 

Verse 28 and 29 speak to how we men are to treat, cherish, and nurture our wives.  It is how we would cherish and nurture our own bodies.  We are to (and if it were possible) present our wives blameless and spotless before the True and Just Judge.  That means our wives must know sound Biblical doctrine and we must teach it, we must live it, and we definitely must exemplify it.

But a man is not to start demonstrating a selfless love only when he gets married.  He should be doing that long beforehand.  Those that are not yet married are to conduct themselves as if preparing for marriage by keeping themselves pure before a Holy God.  They should also be learning what they can in how to be a man of God, and what it takes to exemplify the love of Christ to his bride day in and day out.  For those of us who are married, let me pause and echo the Apostle Paul and exhort all of us to excel still more in that selfless love to our wives, children, and folks that we interact with every day.  Now, obviously as married men we should not be showing the same type and devoted love that we have for our wives to just anyone.  But we are to still show that selfless love.  How do we do that? Let me call you back to 1 John 3:17, But whoever has the world’s goods, and sees his brother in need and closes his heart against him, how does the love of God abide in him?”

It is a simple act of a phone call to check in and see how others are doing, or getting together for lunch.  Help out a brother or sister with chores around the home when they are unable.  A demonstration of our love for one another does not require us to go to great lengths.  A word of encouragement and stopping by to pray with one another is a great way of demonstrating that we love one another.

A man of God is known because he loves the Lord and he loves His people. John 13:35 says that, “By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.” Let your love be known in your marriage, in your homes, and in your places of work.  But in order to love as Christ loves, you must not leave out Christ.  Jesus must be the center and the reason for your love.  You must communicate Him by preaching the gospel of Jesus Christ to those that need to hear the true gospel, repent, believe, and be saved.

One of the greatest ways to love one another is to be involved in one another’s lives.  Help with chores and provide for needs, but knowing what is going on in the lives of the Brethren means that you are connected.  Pray for one another, communicate, confess sin to one another, be a community of believers working through the sanctification process – daily working toward the ultimate goal of becoming more Christlike.  We do not become more like Christ by ourselves.  We need the Word of God, we need the work of the Spirit, we need one another, and we need men of God who love.

Sacrificial Love

The 14th of February is a special day where we display our love for one another. But for us husbands we should be doing this every single day to our wives.  I am not saying to bring them cards, flowers, and chocolates every day, although they may enjoy them for a time.  So how can we demonstrate in meaningful and practical ways Ephesians 5:25, sacrificial love?

First off, sacrificial love means we lose something, husbands we are going to miss whatever is on TV, or destressing right after work.  Your wife has had a stressful day too, why not sacrifice some time and give her some time to relax before dinner by making dinner, or at least helping?  If she cooks, you clean.  I use dinner time because that always seems to be the most ‘chaotic’ time in my home.

Another thing is to be present and listen to your wife.  Stop doing whatever it is that you are doing when she needs to talk and listen to her.  Sometimes she may just need you to listen and not ‘fix’ anything, we men are created to be problem-solvers, so it is important to understand and ask if she needs anything from you.

Husbands and wives are one flesh, they are united together for one life.  That means we each other for emotional support and encouragement.  The root word for husband means to nurture, nurture means work, not sit on a couch at your leisure and let your wife cook your supper and pick up your dirty socks.  We are right back to where we started sacrifice and sacrificial love.  But what is the point? 

Husbands if you love your wives and you want to see them blossom into more lovely women physically, spiritually, godly mothers and wives they need you.  Just as Christ sacrificed Himself for the Church so that He might purify her and present her blameless and spotless one day so must you husbands, you must work to deny yourself, sacrifice yourself so that you can lift your wife up and lead her to a higher standard.

One last thing I have to say is this, husbands and men who are not yet married we are called to be leaders in the homes, we are to be the examples for our wives and our children.  They see how we treat our wives, therefore our sons will treat their wives as we treat our wives and our daughters will seek men that model our behaviors.  Do we want sons-in-law like us and do we want our sons to treat their wives like we treat ours?

I just gave you some hard questions to answer and I’ll give you a few more to ponder and answer, preferable answer together with your wife, she sees your behavior better than you do.  Also, if you have children ask them what you do well and what you are not doing well at.

Is it a joy when I come home?

Am I an example for who my daughter should be looking to marry?

The Compassionate Man of God

The world is rapidly changing; people are struggling with real issues that are weighing heavily on their hearts and minds and placing heavy burdens on their families.  Emotions are being poured out on social media outlets.  Families and friendships are being splintered because of so many complex issues.  This post does not address any one issue.  It is a call for compassion, regardless of which “side” you find yourself on. 

There is always a much bigger problem than what than the current societal issues; this problem is within everyone, and that is sin. Sin introduced disease, death, and destruction into creation and we still see and experience that today. We all have or will see loved one suffer with diseases and bodies that wear out and eventually die.  Some of us have even experienced destruction to some degree, whether that is through the loss of possessions in storms and disasters or financial hardships or other such life altering events.  But through all this as we see those around us experiencing these things, we need to have compassion, but what is compassion and how do we demonstrate it?

To have compassion is to show kindness and to be willing to help others.  It is putting yourself in their shoes as the saying goes. It is empathy, understand their pain, whatever their experience is.  Sometimes we know exactly what they are going through, and sometimes we can only imagine because we have not been in their situation.  We do not have to experience loss and pain to have empathy and compassion; that is a complete misunderstanding in today’s culture.  Look at 2 Corinthians 1:3-4:

Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction so that we will be able to comfort those who are in any affliction with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.

We experience trials, tribulations, and hardships.  We experience loss so that the God of all comfort might comfort us. And we in turn, are then able to comfort others.  When we are in need of comfort, God may comfort us through the ministering of others. That is an amazing truth, one which we should not deny others the opportunity to serve in.

Much of the unbelieving world believes God to be a wrathful, vengeful God, although He will unleash His wrath upon sin. He is actually demonstrating His compassion by being patient in delivering His wrath on those who are unbelievers, giving them additional time to come to saving faith.  That is not the actions of a wrathful, vengeful God. A representation of His compassion would be the sacrifice of His Holy, Sinless, and Righteous Son, Jesus Christ, who paid the full price of all those who would believe. That is the compassion of God demonstrated for all to see.

So how ought we men of God demonstrate our compassion?  I want us to look at another verse, and this verse reveals something deeper to us than the single word characteristic of compassion.  We tend to think of compassion as just being kind, and possibly empathetic usually demonstrated as showing someone kindness as they go through some difficulty and possibly understanding their pain through some shared experience.  But Colossians 3:12 tells us a lot more.  Read it a couple times, slowly and pause through the punctuations.

So, as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved, put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.

Compassion is not a standalone characteristic.  You cannot be compassionate without kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.  If you lack some of these sub-characteristics, just how compassionate are you going to be with someone who is pouring out their heart and crying on your shoulder?

  • A Heart of Compassion

Even though compassion is an outward act, it is driven not by the hands, but by the heart.  Just like Jesus on so many occasions when He healed the masses and fed the thousands.  He was moved with compassion in His innermost being, His spirit, His bowels (that is His heart).  That too is our hearts.  Compassion should always start within us.  If we are in Christ, we must have a heart to have compassion for others.  1 John 3:17 tells us what the opposite of compassion is:

But whoever has the world’s goods, and sees his brother in need and closes his heart against him, how does the love of God abide in him?

If we lack compassion, then we lack the love of God.  As John continually states throughout his Epistle the sons of God and the sons of the devil are evident by what they display.  He is writing specifically about the condition of their hearts.  The works of the hands are an outflow of the condition of the heart. If you are one of the redeemed (chosen of God), then you have a new heart (Ezekiel 11:19, 36:26).  And with this new heart, we can now love God as He intended us to and love one another as we ought to.  Remember the 2 greatest commandments that our Lord and Savior gave?

“You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind, and with all your strength. The second is this, you shall love your neighbor as yourself. (Mark 12:30-31)

That is the key.  If we are not loving God rightly, how can we love one another rightly?  But this is a two-way street.  If we are not loving one another rightly, then how can we love God rightly?  Demonstrating compassion is from the heart first.  True compassion is an act of love to one another and to the God who compassionately went to the cross.

  • Kindness

This is one of the fruits of the Spirit.  Most people, when they think of being kind, may think of being friendly, generous, and considerate.  And although these attributes are true, they do not encompass the depth of meaning to kindness.  True kindness requires something far greater than just a friendly helping hand.  It requires a strong hand and a courageous hand from a friend who is near.  Does this not describe Jesus Christ?

Was Jesus not a friend who was kind and generous to the lost sheep throughout the land in which He travelled? Whether He was in Judea, Galilea, or even Samaria (Jews and Samaritans had a racial hatred of each other), He healed all that desired to be healed.  He fed thousands that where hungry, physically and spiritually, and He raised the dead so that families could be reunited.  But the true demonstration of His kindness was His willingness to go to that cross in our place, to take upon Himself our guilty charge.  His desire was to do the will of Him who sent Him.  “Not what I will, but what You will” (Mark 14:26), He prayed the night that He was betrayed.  That took courage and that took strength.  True compassion is accompanied by strong and courageous kindness.

  • Humility

This is not listed as a fruit of the Spirit, but it is a result and an offshoot of the working of the Spirit.  I will speak of humility in much more detail in a future post, so I will say no more here.

  • Gentleness

Again, here is one of the fruits of the Spirit, and interestingly, with this attribute, it is not a sign of weakness, but of strength in one’s character.  Some might think or say that being gentle means that you allow others to say or do anything to you without regard.  This is not a true understanding of gentleness.  Gentleness is displayed when someone speaks the truth, even a painful truth, but while doing so, guards their tone in such a way that the truth will be well received.  I can put it this way: gentleness is a strong hand with a soft touch.

Jesus demonstrated gentleness all the time, did He not?  He spoke the truth, and He confronted sin.  Most of the time He was gentle, but firm, “Go and sin no more” (John 8:11).  Jesus, the God-Man, was fully God incarnate and had all the divine powers and could do all things.  We see many miracles being performed throughout His earthly ministry, and yet He is gentle with His people Israel even as they reject Him as their God and Savior. What gentleness He showed. Even knowing how many would refuse and deny Him, He would still choose to go to the cross for them and us.  What compassion!

  • Patience

This is another fruit of the Spirit that is an attribute of compassion.  Without this fruit of the Spirit, compassion is very hollow and shallow, nothing but a self-serving, self-glorifying show piece.  We must endeavor to have patience when demonstrating, having, and showing compassion to others.  I want to be very clear here, compassion is not easy.  It does not flow naturally from us.  It is a selfless act, which goes against what our flesh wants.  Our flesh wants to be served, not to serve.  It does not want to endure patiently, but that is exactly what compassion requires.  True compassion will endure because it comes from the God of all compassion.

Our great God and comforter knows what we are and what we go through.  He is omniscient and omnipotent.  He knows that we are frail in our bodies and our own power, and that is why He has provided His Spirit.  It is through His Spirit that we can have joy.  It is through His Spirit we can bear one another’s burdens and comfort one another.  And it is through our own trials that we learn how to help guide and teach and comfort one another through trials of life. 

If you are not a believer in Christ then make today the day that you bow your knee and confess with your tongue that He is Lord and Savior.  He did die for the forgiveness of all sins, He did rise from the grave 3 days later, and He is now seated at the right hand of God the Father.  The Bible states that whoever believes this word will be saved.  Do you believe this in your heart?  If you still have doubts, I ask that you pray that the Lord help your unbelief and that you read the Gospel of John over the next 21 days (21 chapters).  Consider what you read each day and find someone to talk to about what questions arise through the reading.  You may reach out to me through the comment section on this site as well as some excellent sites such as: gotquestions.org and answersingenesis.org.

Men, as Proverbs 27:17 states, “As iron sharpens iron, one man sharpens another.” By asking and answering, and by sharing and having conversations we are sharpening one another and making ourselves wiser men where it matters most, men of the Word.

Reignition

It has been a long time since I last posted.  Things got a little crazy for me and then 2020 hit us and we know what all that brought.  With all the lock downs and closures, I should have had a lot more free time to think and write than I did, but unfortunately, I did what most of the rest of the world was doing…not much constructive.  But over the last few weeks I have put together a series of articles and topics that I will cover on here.

These series will be based on the premise of what this channel is for and that is to make us men all the more men of God.  To sharpen us and to make us better fathers, husbands, and spiritual leaders of our wives and children.  If you are a young man reading my posts and find yourself without a wife and children right now, then so much the better.  It is a wise thing to prepare oneself for what may lie ahead.  A wise man knows that he truly does not know everything and will seek knowledge that he needs before he needs it. Trust me when I say this; if I knew a quarter of what I know now (and there is still a ton I need to learn), I would have made a fraction of the mistakes I have made in my life.

So, what are these series about? Well, you will have to come back from time to time to see.  I’m not going to give away all the secrets right now.  But I will tell you the first one will be an 11-part series on the characteristics of a man of God.  All these characteristics are biblical and they are foundational in being a godly man, husband, father, friend, and disciple. The world we live in is continually moving towards the prince of darkness, Satan.  It has been deceived by his lies, for he is the father of lies and is full of deceit.  So, it is vital that we understand our God given responsibilities as men.  We are to be leaders, we are to be teachers, and we are to be the heads.  These are God given roles for us men.

Adam was created first and therefore he was given the status of the head of Eve who was created second and was given to Adam as his helpmate.  Now let me pause right here because some of us might begin to think that I am painting a picture of either a divine inspired inequality or a 1950s “women’s place is in the kitchen” thing. Neither of which I am saying.

A quick analogy we can use is that of American football.  You have the quarterback and then you have the running back.  If you do not have an amazing quarterback, your team is going to struggle, but you can manage with a middle of the road running back if you have a stellar quarterback.  But what also goes with those positions or roles on the team is responsibility, and the quarterback’s responsibility level is elevated.  Because on the field he is the head, he makes decisions, calls and changes plays, makes sure the offensive line protection call is right, etc. – the responsibilities of the quarterback on the field are beyond the scope of this article.  The running back runs the ball, catches the ball, and may block a defender, which is still important, but not to the level of the quarterback.

The roles of men and women may be different but that does not mean that there is a difference in value.  There is no value difference from one human being to another, whether they are male or female, white, black, red, yellow, brown, green, blue, purple, fully functional, disabled (mentally or physically), born or unborn, democrat or republican, Christian or Islamic or unaffiliated to any religion.  The value of the person is no different.

We each have a role to fulfill and these roles and responsibilities are divinely given.  Men are to be the heads of their wives and children and women are to be submissive to their husbands.  Again, let me be clear, for a husband to be the head does not give him the right to be abusive (verbal, physical or emotional), dictatorial, or dismissive of his wife.  For a wife to be submissive does not mean to cower at her husband’s feet, to be at his beck and call, to be his maid, servant, or slave. 

A husband is to care for his wife, to love her sacrificially as Christ did the church, to seek her purity in deed and action in the sight of Christ.  A wife is to be obedient to the authority of her husband as the church is to be obedient to Christ.  I understand this is a sensitive subject so let me be even clearer.  The authority of the husband is not authoritarian, it is not a dictatorship, and it is not a monarchy.  But the authority of the husband means that the husband will be held responsible for the caring, growth, purity, and condition of the wife and the entire family on the day of judgement.  We tend to get hung up with authority and only decisions, but with authority comes so much more responsibility and also what comes on the day of judgement. Decisions should be made in conjunction as husband and wife, but the authority is to rest with the husband.  The children are to respect the father, not through fear, but through love, respect, and honor.

I will dive a bit deeper into these things and what exactly Scripture says on these matters.  As we have seen over the years, views on topics change, but the Word of God does not, so it is reliable and it is relevant.  So, stay tuned and check back frequently to see new posts.

Why We Should Stand For the National Anthem

As we watched last year and into this year professional sports players protesting the National Anthem, many viewpoints have found their way into the public domain.  The most prevailing argument, “it is their right to express their personal views.”  Our country which was founded on great freedoms is not founded on personal freedoms as the culture defines them today.  There are several things that I want to cover but I very quickly want to address something right off the top.

By kneeling, sitting, stretching, waiting in a locker room, or doing something other than standing up and being still (other words, not being a distraction – camera folks are not still but are also not being a distraction either) is protesting and showing a lack of respect for the values, the virtues and the potential of what America is.  These people who are protesting America (because they are protesting the flag that represents it and the song that represents it) are only bringing attention to themselves and not to any issue that they may speak about.  Their protest has become center stage and their statement has become bigger than any issues than they seem to be fighting for.

They are more concerned with their own images and their own team, their own sport and their own statements than any sort of issues, whether real or perceived.  Remember this all started by Colin Kaepernick who also never registered to vote so he was not going to take part in the Constitutional right to change the governmental body, and he also has great faith in a dictator by the name of Fidel Castrol.  Those few facts should demonstrate the level of how much understanding he has in the truth of what he was protesting, also the fact that once he was out of a job he rescinded the fact that he would continue his demonstrations as to be less of a distraction.

Now that we have established that regardless of what these athletes and owners and news reports say, they are really protesting America and are at the heart of the matter protesting the community and the unity of America, the very solidarity that they seek to build, let’s move on to why that is so.

As I stated earlier America is built upon freedoms but not so much as personal freedoms as we like to think.  In the last 30 years or so a lot of Americans like to believe we can do whatever it is that we want to do as long as it does not hurt anyone else.  This is a false idea, and here is why.  If we are a society then we are a community and that means we are first a unit and to be a unit we must have relationships.  Now to have a relationship means we must have communications.  To say we are community and then not interact, not rely, not communicate or commune with one another is really paramount to being on different planets without radio contact.

I tell you that what one person does, it will affect those around them, it may not be earth shattering or family history altering, but there will be an impact if they’re lives interact even in the simplest of ways.  This is observed by our moods, when we are happy people around us will be happier, when we are sad or mad, people around us will be so.  Of course the analogy here only works to a certain degree but so does the idea that the nation is a community.  How many people who live in Northwest Arkansas feel like they are a community with people in Seattle Washington?  Only if you know people (friends, family, have heritage, life experience, etc.) there, but we are all Americans and that has been lost, because we see ourselves first as individuals.  Another easier way to describe it, we have become selfish and greedy.

You don’t have to be the mega rich and in the 1% to be greedy and selfish.  Many of those in the 1% give more money to charity both in dollar amount and in percentage of income than many of the 99%, so who is greedier and who is the more charitable if it is measured by the amount given?  The idea I am illustrating here is that we paint a picture that is not a true reflection of the reality that we live in.  We protest the symbols of unity in the name of unity because it is our individual right to do so in order to bring about unity.  If that statement makes no sense to you, then I hope you are not one who supports the American protesters, because that is their logic, whether they articulate it like that or not, but that is what it is.

Something else that I want to bring up is that these athletes want to bring about change or bring about awareness to social injustices or inequalities.  Now obviously this is a sensitive subject that I am treading on so I am going to say this, we are all one race, just different shades.  There are bad things that happen, and unfortunately they happen all too often, but does that make America a terrible nation?  Think of some of the nations in Europe still have social class structures, some nations in Africa are in the midst of generational old civil wars and children are kidnapped from their homes and forced into the military.  There are problems within our society but America actually gives us the best chance to fix them, by allowing us to work them out through communication and expression, but expression of a view does not lead to change, only through hard work and dedication.

Hard work and dedication to the cause was championed and won a lot of victories in the 1950’s and 1960’s with Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.  But on the flip side almost all civil liberties were lost in the 1960’s in Afghanistan because there was no dialog; there was only one way communication, a one way story being told.  Much like the protests, the story being told is that America is broken and nothing is good.  If that is so then where is the dialog to fix these problems and who is spearheading the resolution of these issues?  What are these athletes doing besides disrespecting their fellow Americans?

I can tell you that there is far more good things in America than bad, and we have a chance to make a difference and to change those things that are bad.  That is what makes America great.  All of what is stated to here is to point out the truth, that the people protesting America do so under the faith of a lie.  I want to be clear that there are true injustices that have happened, and those happen all the time and those are perpetuated far more by criminals who are not in a police uniform, why is that not being protested and why is that not on the mind and playing field of American sports?

If bringing social injustice to the forefront of the American mind, there are better ways to do that then to protest America.  But one such injustice is that criminals behind bars have better benefits than some free Americans.  The criminal has rescinded his rights to be a contributing member of society, but the homeless and the socioeconomically down trotted person may not have the ability to reach their full potentials.  Should we not invest in the people that have a desire to help society and not hurt it?

The NFL Commissioner Roger Goodell commented that he was proud of “our” league for their demonstrations of their individual views, but there is the flip side to this coin.  If a player demonstrates their individual views with regard to their uniform during a game, they are fined a set dollar amount.  If a player demonstrates their individual views with regard to team rules they can be fined and/or suspended games.  What is more important the nation that allows the athletes to play a game and make on average more money in a single year what most Americans will make in their entire working life, or a game of football?  Some will say “yes, but there are rules governing the game and how the uniform and what they do during the anthem there is no rule.”  And I would say they are absolutely correct, but if we look to rules and laws to govern our lives then where do we draw the line?

With rules and laws have to come punishments and then there has to be those who enforce them.  If there is no punishment or enforcement then what is the point of a rule or law?  Where would we be if we had laws for everything?  Something like this occurred with the sons of Israel.  When God gave them the Law, it was so that they would live differently, they would stand out from the nations that would exist around them. Now they took God’s perfect law and made it a standard of judgement instead of an arrow.  It should have pointed them to the fact that they could not meet God’s perfect requirements and that they were in need of a Savior, who is Jesus Christ.It is only through His great and wonderful gift of grace and mercy that we have been given our salvation.

We as Christians should be patriotic to our country, and especially to America.  First we are called to be obedient to the authority that God has placed over us. Second, because of what was declared in our Declaration of Independence:

“We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness. — That to secure these rights, Governments are instituted among Men, deriving their just powers from the consent of the governed…”

Standing for the National Anthem is a symbol of respect.  Much like the American Flag and the Anthem itself, these are merely symbols, but they demonstrate something to ourselves, to our children, and to the rest of the world.  That we respect and honor what America means and what America has done, think of all of the positive things America has done for itself, its people and the world.  It demonstrates that we are not a group of individuals, but a united group of people with individual traits that makes them all better.

So next time the National Anthem is played I ask that you show respect for a nation that has provided so much more than what a 2,000 word article could ever hope to cover.  Even if you are at home I would challenge you to stand up, place your right hand over your heart like you love this nation and demonstrate respect for the nation, for yourself, and for each other.

Is Lent Biblical?

I want to talk to you all about Lent. How many of us really know what Lent is and why we observe or celebrate it?  First off, let me be very blunt.  There is no Scriptural reference or command to observe it.  There are commands to pray and to fast all throughout Scripture, but a minimal time is never given.  There is an expectation under Scripture that we have an active and daily prayer life and we have some routine fasting going on.  Fasts are not limited to only food fasts, there can be other fasts, and I do plan on going into those in another post.

Now, let me be clear that there is nothing wrong with the observance of Lent, just like there is nothing wrong with celebrating Christmas with a decorated tree (real or fake) and exchanging presents.  The secular, commercialized Christmas celebration has nothing to do with the celebration of the birth of Christ, but there is nothing wrong with celebrating it.  Another example would be to say there is nothing wrong with celebrating the birth of our great nation, the Fourth of July.  Setting off fireworks, big explosions, cooking outdoors and enjoying the company of friends and family, there is nothing wrong with that.

In those 2 examples though, there is no Scriptural precedence.  We could not say, we are honoring our God in doing these things, by merely doing them.  Now if we gather together in celebration of the birth of Christ on Christmas we are recognizing His work of incarnation.  Or we are recognizing that all governments and nations have been ordained by God before the foundations of the world.  When we celebrate these occasions in His honor, in His glory, it is about heart attitude.  It starts on the inside, and works its way to the outside, something you could call worship.  If your heart is not right, your worship will not be right either.

But let’s focus on Lent since it is that time of year.  As I stated above, observation in and of itself is fine, but on the flipside it does nothing to the glory of the Lord.  You may be wondering why I would say that.
Stay with me as we look at where the idea of Lent came from.  But first, there are some serious questions that we need to ask ourselves and each other – because we are here to sharpen one another remember.

Questions:

  • Why am I observing Lent?
  • Will God reward or punish me for my observance?
  • Will God or will I get the glory for my observance?
  • Does the Bible really speak of Lent or of the individual components?
  • What earthly activity am I giving up to spend more time with God?
  • Am I really giving it up for God?
  • Am I giving it up temporarily or permanently?
  • Why restrict it just to 40 days once every year?

These are some serious questions that I pray will cause us to look deeper into ourselves, and with all seriousness, ask each other.  We must be continually checking our own motives.  It is truly amazing how different those motives seem when they are in our minds (secret) and then when they are spoken out loud.  That is because the sin of pride can so easily manipulate its way into everything that we do and everything that we touch.  That is why it is so important to be an active and participating member of a local physical body of Christ (a local church.)  Your attendance AND participation is vital, for your own spiritual well being.

Looking into Scripture, we can glean 3 different instances where Moses, Elijah, and of course Jesus Christ fasted for a period of 40 days.

Exodus 34:28 “So he was there with the Lord forty days and forty nights; he did not eat bread or drink water. And he wrote on the tablets the words of the covenant, the Ten Commandments.”

1 Kings 19:8 “So he arose and ate and drank, and went in the strength of that food forty days and forty nights to Horeb, the mountain of God.”

Matthew 4:2 “And after He had fasted forty days and forty nights, He then became hungry.”

Something that needs to be pointed out here is that in all three instances the time was 40 solid days removed from everything and even everyone.  They were solely devoted to the LORD (that is the Father.) They weren’t merely not eating and not drinking, but they were not fellowshipping with humans, they were not reading books, they were not tending to any other duties.  They gave up every pleasure, every responsibility, every physical need.  I would venture to say that they did not even sleep.  The LORD sustained them without food and water for that long, why could He not sustain them without sleep as well?

Something else to look at is that Lent is observed over a time span of 46 days, Sundays not included.  Why is that?  Why would we say that we are giving up TV for 40 of the 46 days but on Sundays we can watch it because those aren’t part of the Lent observation days? Then Lent wouldn’t necessarily be following the example of the Scripture passages listed above.  Now I will admit that you could say, “I wouldn’t watch it on Sunday, I would continue to observe the same standards on Sunday as I do the other 6 days of the week.”  But then I come back to the point, why stop there?  Why not continue, and what are you doing with that extra time?  Is God only worth 40 of 46 days a year for that extra little bit?  This brings up another large issue – if Lent is Scripturally based then how can we just change how we practice it or observe it?  If Scripture says 40 days, should we not stay with Scripture?

Please understand I am not trying to prevent anyone from observing Lent, but let’s look at a little more at the context of those three verses listed above.  Something I have heard a number of times in my church when it comes to studying and reading Scripture is “context, context, context.”  Without it the true meaning and intent of a passage is lost.  Trying to understand the meaning and apply it to oneself only one verse at a time will only lead to disaster.

We will first look at Exodus 34:28, in a broader context, Moses is on Mount Sinai or Mount Horeb receiving the instructions and the Law.  This is actually the second time Moses was on the mount for a 40 day stint, this is also when Moses was hidden in the cleft of a rock and caught a glimpse of the glory of the LORD as He passed by.  But again in broad context Moses went without food and drink and possibly sleep because he was in the absolute presence of the LORD Almighty.

In 1 Kings 19:8, we find Elijah running for his very life.  Fleeing from Jezebel who wanted him dead just like all the other prophets during his time.  Elijah was fleeing, came to Beersheba, to a juniper tree and wished to die, but fell asleep.  An angel came and woke him and told him to eat.  So he awoke and ate and then slept again.  Then the angel came again and told him to awake and eat, because the journey would be too difficult for him.  So he awoke and ate and drank and he journeyed 40 days and 40 nights to Mount Horeb also known as Mount Sinai or the LORD’s mountain.  He did not eat and did not drink, but also did not do the other normal activities of his life.  He was consumed with doing the LORD’s business.  Once there Elijah, received instruction from the LORD.

The last verse we’ll look at is Matthew 4:2 and is probably that most familiar.  We find Jesus being led into the wilderness by the Spirit sometime after being baptized.  After fasting for 40 days and 40 nights when He is weak in the flesh, the Devil approaches to tempt Him.  What did He do during that time?  Knowing Christ from different Scripture passages, an easy answer would be that He prayed.  Remember He was there from eternity past.  He was there at the foundation of the world.  God the Father and God the Son spoke to each other (if we can really say it that way, the Godhead really doesn’t have to speak, they are in unison, but we could get lost in that discussion.)

Jesus Christ prayed the night He was betrayed.  He prayed so fervently and so long and so hard that he sweat drops of blood.  He knew the old writings, what we now call the Old Testament like He knows the back of your hand.   He was probably quoting them out loud and even used Scripture to defeat Satan’s temptations.  What this is really teaching us here is that we should memorize Scripture and when we are tempted, we can defeat that temptation by recalling the very Scriptures that we hide in our hearts.

Lent is fine to celebrate.  But just like only attending a church service on Christmas, Easter, weddings and funerals, it does not make a Christian life.  You will not earn the favor of God, as His favor cannot be earned or purchased.  You can do something extra in this time of year, but don’t forget the rest of the year.  Read your Bible daily, have a prayer time, make sure you have a journal, engage with one another, outside of 5 minutes before the singing starts on a Sunday morning.  Get together over coffee, lunch, dinner, something…anything.  Here’s an idea for Lent, make it a point to have lunch with other Christians that you normally don’t converse with every day of Lent.

The biggest thing is to not stop doing these things once the season of Lent is over.  Continue it on, perhaps not as extreme.  If you love and honor God then continue it for Him.  Encourage each other to keep it up to fight the good fight as the flesh will war against the spirit.  The observation of Lent will not get you brownie points or a bigger reward in heaven, it is the obedience of His commands that will.  Here are 2 commands that are often included as elements of the Lent observation and Jesus gives no mention of only doing them during Lent season.

Mathew 6:16, “Whenever you fast, do not put on a gloomy face as the hypocrites do, for they neglect their appearance so that they will be noticed by men when they are fasting. Truly I say to you, they have their reward in full.”

Matthew 6:5, “When you pray, you are not to be like the hypocrites; for they love to stand and pray in the synagogues and on the street corners so that they may be seen by men. Truly I say to you, they have their reward in full.”

To say that Lent is not Scriptural is true; to say you shouldn’t observe it…I wouldn’t go that far.  Remember “context, context, context” and ask yourself those vital questions from above.  Are you doing it because everyone else is doing it?  Are you doing it for attention for yourself?  Are you doing it for mere tradition or sentimental value?  Are you doing it for a feeling of closeness to God?  Or are you doing it to spend more time worshipping God?

Lent is a tradition of men and let us celebrate it as such.  Do not let it be regarded any higher than the Word of God that we claim to cherish.  If we cherish it, so then I exhort you to search the Scriptures to seek the truth that He speaks and to challenge each other and hold one another to that standard.  That standard is the One who purchased us with His most precious blood.

I pray you will find this as an encouragement.  And if you do observe Lent, you will see it for what it really is, a ceremony of man, but also as a new opportunity to focus on worshipping the God of the universe.

God Bless

The Story Behind The Name

I want to welcome you to IronStrikingIron.com and my very first blog post.  Since this is my first blog I want to take this opportunity to reveal the reason and the message behind the name of the site. It sounds a little manly – ok really manly – and that is by design.  The theme verse of this blog is Proverbs 27:17, “Iron sharpens iron, So one man sharpens another.”  This very verse is packed full of so much truth that a good pastor could spend several weeks preaching on it.  We won’t spend that much time on it.

When I decided to begin a blog, I realized I had no idea really what a blog was, how to set it up, how it worked, I was clueless.  So I did a little bit of research and with today’s technology and how-tos it is pretty easy to educate yourself.  You can get anything up and running, and when you know the right people, it makes it even faster when you have questions or need to bounce ideas off of someone.  My biggest challenge was coming up with a good name that was easy to remember, not too long, and encompassed what I wanted to share.

The same thing that makes it so easy to start a blog also makes it hard to stand out because, everyone has one.  I had brainstormed over the course of three days and came up with a list of 100 names.  Friends and family voted for their favorites and there was a clear winner, but it was taken.   So then I looked to the next one, that was taken, then the next, it was take, the next, it was gone.  So on and so forth.  All of the good names that I had originally wanted were taken, at least the ones that I could be happy with.

About a year ago during a monthly men’s meeting at my church a discussion of Proverbs 27:17 came up.  It was being quoted and even became a challenge not just during each of the monthly meetings, but throughout the month. The NASB translation along with many other English translations use the word sharpens, but I want to replace that word – in all humility and respect to the authority of Scripture – and replace it with the word striking.  (As a note to the previous sentence, I am not advocating changing the wording in the Bible, God in His inerrancy placed the word sharpens there and I am NOT challenging that.  I am, for illustrational purposes only, using striking to understand the text in its fuller context.)

So now that we are using the word striking, let’s see what these two different words mean.  When we see the word sharpen, we think of sharpening a knife.  The act of sharpening shaves off small bits of the blade only when the knife becomes dull.  Sharpening is done infrequently and there is little effort involved from the sharpener or the knife.

However, the word “striking” brings to mind an image of a blacksmith striking a piece of iron over and over again.  By using available tools, he strikes the chunk of metal, heats it up, and then strikes it again.  Over time and working it over and over until the impurities are “beaten” out, it is molded into a tool ready to be put into use.

The point is that we are not to be merely a whetting stone for one another, but we are to be an anvil and a hammer to one another.  Obviously, we should not bash each other with ridicule and condemnation, but we should not be timid about seeking to spur each other on to love and good deeds (spur also can be translated as to provoke, or agitate.)  Because I want this blog to be a resource for men, especially men who seek to be godly, the name needed to first be based in Scripture, but also be targeted to, well, men.

What would that even look like to be striking one another?  Simply put, we are to be continually engaged in theological and intellectual conversations.  This means we should be challenging one another in our thinking, our behavior, and our habits.  We need to be reading, whether as a group or individually, both Scripture and books, digesting all this information and sharing it.

God will reveal the understanding of Scripture to anyone He wants to through the Holy Spirit, but just because someone reads the Bible does not mean they know the truth of it.  Look at the Pharisees of Jesus’ time, they knew the Law and had much of it memorized.  They knew Scripture, but they didn’t understand it.  This is because they did not want to be sharpened.  They were not humbled; they were not “coachable.”

So how are we to coach one another?  2 Timothy 3:16 says, “All Scripture is inspired by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, for training in righteousness.”  We are to be trained in the Scriptures, we are to know the stories and the lessons, and we are to understand the Old Testament Law, but not live under it.  That law was fulfilled by the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior.  We are to reprove one another when we sin.  And when we sin (because we will on this side of glory) we are to use Scripture for correction.

We are also to love one another just as Christ commanded in John 13:34, “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another, even as I have loved you, that you also love one another.”  And how much did He love us?  Christ did teach, train, exhort, correct, and reprove His disciples, His brothers, as we are.  But He did so in love with the ultimate goal to prepare them for service of the Father and to bring Him glory, no matter what it brought them.

That is the heart attitude that we must have; we must be in constant preparation for service and in service for our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.  For He will return one day, we don’t know when, it could be this very moment, it could be sometime this night, or not, we just don’t know.  We have been warned many times to be on guard.  The only way that I know to be on guard is to be on the offensive.  To be moving forward towards the Lord in my understanding, in my knowledge, in my service, in my love, and I want to bring as many of you along with me as I can.

I pray that you find this a blessing and an encouragement to you and look forward to posting more.  God Bless.