The Bold Man of God

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To be bold in our world today is a tricky matter.  To take a stand on any matter can improve your reputation or destroy it.  One of the biggest concerns that has come to light is that if the position that anyone takes on an issue will be the wrong one if it is against the majority.  This person is not just on the wrong side and needs their thinking corrected, but must be cancelled.  Everything about them, their history, their present and anything they could do in the future is now pointless and worthless.  But still, should this prevent anyone from taking a stand when it is the right one to take?   How do we know if it is the RIGHT one to take in the first place? We know that, as men of God, we must start with Him and His Word.

To be bold, whether in person or with our online presence, we must begin with understanding how we are to conduct ourselves with our words and our deeds towards other believers and unbelievers.  Being bold is not necessarily holding up a sign on a street corner condemning a particular sin and screaming at the top of our lungs that all that commit it and live in it are going to hell.  It is true, but it is the wrong way to go about it.  Jesus Christ never did it that way.  He went and had a meal with those sinners.  He went and had gentle conversations with them.  That is incredibly more bold than vocal outbursts of harsh words.

Being bold in today’s world is demonstrating true Christ like love.  Our culture is all about love, it is a love-centric love, but it is not a true love, it is the emotional love.  This type of love ebbs and flows with the current of emotions; it is not steady and does not weather the storms like the love of Christ.  We explored the love of Christ a bit in other articles so I do not need to dive deep into it all here.  But it is this true love that drives us to be bold, to get the truth of Christ out into the world. We should have a desire to preach the Word to all creation (Mark 16:15) and to go into all the world and make disciples (Matthew 28:19).  This does take boldness, especially, in a culture that is more and more hostile toward Christianity, and Christians in particular.

I can write on boldness time and time again and encourage people to be bold out in the world as they go about their business, but it requires so much more.  Being bold does require us to use words, but more importantly it requires our presence, no matter if in the streets, in our place of work, or online.  So how might we be bold men of God in a world that is set against God?  Let us go to the Word, for that is where we must start.  That is our foundation; that is the bedrock of truth that we must stand on that gives us strength for our boldness to withstand the onslaught that will come from back at us.

So, what does the word of God say about being bold?  Oh, it says so much. We can begin with the Old Testament, and particularly the Prophets and how bold they were.  Looking at Jeremiah 7, God calls the prophet to the gate of the temple and calls the people to repent of their sinful ways.  The people for generations have walked in sins making a mockery of temple worship, worshipping Baal along with God, along with many other sins.  The people were going through the motions, but did not truly worship God the way He had prescribed.  God told the prophet what he was to say and then God even warned him of the outcome in Jeremiah 7:27-28.

27 “You shall speak all these words to them, but they will not listen to you; and you shall call to them, but they will not answer you. 28 You shall say to them, ‘This is the nation that did not obey the voice of the Lord their God or accept correction; truth has perished and has been cut off from their mouth.

Let’s look at Daniel 3.  King Nebuchadnezzar made a very large image of himself out of gold.  He gathered all the rulers of his kingdom to come to the dedication of this golden image, and at the sound of the instruments they would bow in worship of the image.  And in all likeness, all the peoples would do the same.  However, as we see in verse 8, Chaldeans came forward and called out the Jews that had been exiled to Babylon.  These Jews that were called out where none other than Shadrach, Meshach and Abed-nego.  We know the story, but we may forget the bigger picture of what is going on.  These men stood up to the commands of a king even if it meant their death, and even if it was a dreadful death.

The law that went forth was that at the sound of music all are to fall down in worship, and who ever does not fall down is to be thrown into the midst of the furnace.  They are to be burned alive.  These young men, who were in their teens when they were exiled, now probably in their twenties, are being confronted by a very angry and hostile king, and being threatened with death if they would not do something as simple as bowing down to a golden statue.  But look at their response in verse 16-18, “O Nebuchadnezzar, we do not need to give you an answer concerning this matter. 17 If it be so, our God whom we serve is able to deliver us from the furnace of blazing fire; and He will deliver us out of your hand, O king. 18 But even if He does not, let it be known to you, O king, that we are not going to serve your gods or worship the golden image that you have set up.” 

This is the boldness that we need to have in today’s world, the kind of boldness that does not look at the consequences that may come upon us and influence our actions and chip away at our boldness, at our resolve to live for Christ.  Our light needs to shine bright, especially now, and when we fear the consequences of what this world and the powers of this world might do to us, then we have failed to obey the mandate of the Master.  There will always be consequences for our boldness, but we cannot let that dictate our message to the world, because for every action that we take there will always be consequences.  This is the way of the world that we live in.  There are good consequences and bad consequences, but we cannot let the fear of consequences dictate how bold or how timid we are in living out our faith or preaching the gospel.

Let’s look at Acts 4:13, the NASB reads “13 Now as they observed the confidence of Peter and John and understood that they were uneducated and untrained men, they were amazed, and began to recognize them as having been with Jesus.”  That word, confidence, is from two Greek root words, pas meaning “all” and rhesis, “a proverb or statement quoted with resolve, there is a bold resolution to speak all things.  It can also be understood as frankness, bluntness, or publicity.  Now we need to back up and understand what Peter and John were doing before verse 13, so that we might have a full understanding of what “they” saw as the confidence of Peter and John.

In Acts 2, Peter preached the first sermon after the Holy Spirit came upon the disciples and many men came to saving faith.  In Acts 3, a lame man is healed and Peter is preaching after the healing.  Now in Acts 4, Peter and John have been arrested by the Sanhedrin and are beginning to address the religious elite with the truth.  Now that takes boldness and courage.  Peter and John are preaching the gospel to men, not behind a curtain of anonymity.  Their identity is totally known and these men may be facing the same fate as their teacher, Jesus Christ, and yet they are preaching to the Sanhedrin without holding anything back.

This is boldness.  This is what we must do.  To let those that need to hear the words of the gospel see our confidence, our boldness in the gospel.  So that no matter what they do to us, it will not shake us, it will not move us off our course.  We have a singular mission and that is to preach, to share that message of salvation.  Not that life on this planet may be better, not that you can have your best life now, or that you will have health and wealth, but that you can be saved from the wrath to come.  For the trials and tribulations that we may suffer here are but momentary light afflictions compared to the weight of glory to come.

The Apostle Paul wrote about boldness in many of his letters to the churches as well, and he endured many trials in his missionary journeys.  He detailed some of his trials in 2 Corinthians 11:23-28, “23 Are they servants of Christ? —I speak as if insane—I more so; in far more labors, in far more imprisonments, beaten times without number, often in danger of death. 24 Five times I received from the Jews thirty-nine lashes. 25 Three times I was beaten with rods, once I was stoned, three times I was shipwrecked, a night and a day I have spent in the deep. 26 I have been on frequent journeys, in dangers from rivers, dangers from robbers, dangers from my countrymen, dangers from the Gentiles, dangers in the city, dangers in the wilderness, dangers on the sea, dangers among false brethren; 27 I have been in labor and hardship, through many sleepless nights, in hunger and thirst, often without food, in cold and exposure. 28 Apart from such external things, there is the daily pressure on me of concern for all the churches.”

These were some of the consequences that he endured just for going about and sharing the gospel to those that needed to hear it.  Many who need to hear it will be hostile to it, but that should not be why we are timid.  2 Timothy 1:7 tells us that God has not given us a spirit of timidity, but of power and love and discipline.  That word, timidity, could be translated as cowardice.  We cannot shrink away when it comes to sharing the gospel. 

We must be bold in our speech, but not overbearing.  It is not the way of Jesus Christ, who is our example, to corner someone and yell and scream and condemn them to hell.  Even though He is God, He has every right to condemn every one of us to hell.  He is a gracious God, who willingly went to the cross to purchase us from the wrath to come, the just penalty that our sins deserve.  That is why we must with all love and gentleness share the gospel.  Sharing the gospel also requires listening and having some understanding of where that other person is spiritually.

We see Jesus’ example after He called Matthew in Luke 5:29-23 “29 And Levi gave a big reception for Him in his house; and there was a great crowd of tax collectors and other people who were reclining at the table with them. 30 The Pharisees and their scribes began grumbling at His disciples, saying, ‘Why do you eat and drink with the tax collectors and sinners?’ 31 And Jesus answered and said to them, ‘It is not those who are well who need a physician, but those who are sick. 32 I have not come to call the righteous but sinners to repentance.’” Jesus did not just eat with them. He would have had conversations with them about the kingdom, about the good news that comes through faith in the Son of God, that glorious truth that can only come through salvation of what is to come.  We are living in a Romans 1 culture where the wrath of God is being revealed, where good is being called evil, and evil is being called good.  But we must not lose faith or become weary in our resolve to be bold.  We must stand firm, even when we are maligned for the faith that we have in the Son of God, the Lord Jesus Christ.  We must stand fast on the Word of God, even when we are told that it is some ancient text written by men.  It is the one book that holds all the truth that is needed for all that we need to know of who our God is, how He has related to us, how we are to relate to Him, and how we are to relate to one another.

The Selfless Man of God

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We, as men of God, are to be selfless, or in another word, unselfish.  But what does that mean?  Does that mean that we have to give up on all our dreams or give all our money over to God, or the poor, or to those who are in need?  Are we do expend all our time and energy on endeavors that enrich and uplift other people?  Well, the short answer is no, but you must keep reading to get the full answer.  So, what does God’s Word say about all these things?  Take a look at Luke 6:35:

35 But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return; and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High; for He Himself is kind to ungrateful and evil men. 36 Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful.

As we can see, this is our Lord Jesus telling us not just to love our family and friends but our enemies.  We are to love those that hate us.  Just pause here and really consider what that means.  Think about what it means to love your family and friends and what you get in return for loving them, and being a loving member in their lives.  Now love someone that hates you, love someone that will not reciprocate, love someone that wants nothing to do with you.  That is what we are commanded to do.  That is preciously what our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ did while we were yet sinners (Romans 5:8) and while we were enemies and hostile to Him (Romans 8:7)

To be generous is relatively easy.  Even to do good deeds is a remarkably easy task when we have the means and motivation. Even when we do not have the means or motivation, it is it is easy to do good deeds for those that we love, and those that we agree and get along with.  But that is not what we are commanded to do.  We are commanded to love those that do not love us.  We are to give to them and lend to them with the expectation of nothing in return.  Give without even expecting a simple thank you in return.

Let me back up for one moment to look a little deeper at the word love.  We may overlook and sometimes undervalue this 4 letter word.  We kiss the wife good-bye in the morning and say, “I love you”, or tell the kids that we “love you” before we send them off to bed.  It is a simple word packed full of meaning.  But it is also a word that has to be lived out.  There has to be action behind that word to give it meaning.  In 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 we can see what Scripture says about love

4 Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, 5 does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, 6 does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never fails. 

The truest love is explained here, that is agape love.  Agape love is usually the love that is expressed by God to His creation and upon His creatures.  So how do we know that this is the truest and purest form of love? Again, let’s search the Scriptures. First John 4:8 says, “God is Love.”  But what does that mean for us?  The word love is translated from different Greek words, and that is how we get our different biblical love types.  In this case, the word love is translated from the word agapos, which means that God is the very source of this love.

So, what does it mean to have agape love?  It means that you choose to love them.  It is a deliberate action demonstrated toward and for the highest good of someone else.  God did this by sending His own son Jesus Christ to die in the place of penitent sinners.  To say that you love someone that is a world away from you, that might not like you is a ‘nice’ gesture, but that is all it is, a simple gesture.  Agape love is demonstrated in the other person’s life, you know, your enemy’s life.  If you want to follow His command and be a selfless man of God, you must demonstrate a self-sacrificing love to someone that does not so easily or readily reciprocate your love. Or in other words, someone that demonstrates any love other than agape.

Getting back to our starting verses in Luke, we can see that God Himself is kind to ungrateful and evil men.  The thing about the Scripture is that there are so many things that are clearly delineated into a right and wrong, good and evil, light and dark, and moral and immoral.  God is kind to those that are ungrateful to Him and are, at heart, enemies of God.  Yet He so loved us with agape love that He sent His son to take our punishment for the sins, the moral failures of His standards that we all committed.

God the Father is demonstrating how He is being selfless to those who are His enemies.  He chose long ago, before the foundation of the world, that He would redeem sinners.  The choosing of Abraham long ago is both the actual selection of a real people nation – Israel – and a foretaste of the calling of Christians.  It is the deliverance of Israel from bondage under Egypt to the deliverance of sinners from under the bondage of sin. Now some might say that they did not need this deliverance and that they are not enemies of God, because He either does not exist, or they have not offended Him.  But here is the thing, as I just stated in the previous paragraph.  There are rights and wrongs and there are friends and enemies of God.  Better said, there are those who are of the household of God and then there are those who are His enemies.  God emptied Himself. He was selfless so that He could make His enemies His family and we are commanded to demonstrate that kind of love.

It is easier said than done, which is why we must do it in His Spirit and in His strength.  For if we do anything on our own it will fizzle and fade, and if we could keep it up, it would ultimately be done for the wrong reasons.  Even without us realizing it, we can do things with selfish motivations and self-glorification and for what we can get back.  We can love like this because He first loved us (1 John 4:10).  We can be selfless because we, who are in Christ, have the mind and the heart of Christ.  We must have a heart that aches for those who hate and revile Christians.

God our Father has always been and is still this very day merciful to us.  Those of us who seek to be men of God are to emulate that same characteristic through agape love.  Now, demonstrating love does not mean accepting and tolerating all things that are going on in the world.  That is not love.  To be tolerant of all things is actually the opposite of loving.  It is a demonstration of selfishness, showing/revealing that we do not really care enough to be concerned about others and their eternal destination or how they get along in their day to day lives.

This selfless love is a big deal.  It is referenced many times throughout Scripture and it transcends so many of the issues within the contexts of Scripture, covering every issue that we encounter today.  Here is the bottom line: for us to demonstrate, or more precisely to have selfless love, we must have that type of love for God and for our neighbors.  We cannot love one another and especially not our enemies without a right and proper love for our God.  The Good Samaritan story demonstrates just who our neighbors are.  We must have both a right love for God, by loving Him with all of our heart, soul, mind and strength, and the second, is like it that we will love our neighbor as ourselves.  Luke 10:25-37 is where we can find this interaction and story.

25 And a lawyer stood up and put Him to the test, saying, “Teacher, what shall I do to inherit eternal life?” 26 And He said to him, “What is written in the Law? How does it read to you?” 27 And he answered, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your strength, and with all your mind; and your neighbor as yourself.” 28 And He said to him, “You have answered correctly; do this and you will live.” 29 But wishing to justify himself, he said to Jesus, “And who is my neighbor?”

30 Jesus replied and said, “A man was going down from Jerusalem to Jericho, and fell among robbers, and they stripped him and beat him, and went away leaving him half dead. 31 And by chance a priest was going down on that road, and when he saw him, he passed by on the other side. 32 Likewise a Levite also, when he came to the place and saw him, passed by on the other side. 33 But a Samaritan, who was on a journey, came upon him; and when he saw him, he felt compassion, 34 and came to him and bandaged up his wounds, pouring oil and wine on them; and he put him on his own beast, and brought him to an inn and took care of him. 35 On the next day he took out two denarii and gave them to the innkeeper and said, ‘Take care of him; and whatever more you spend, when I return I will repay you.’ 36 Which of these three do you think proved to be a neighbor to the man who fell into the robbers’ hands?” 37 And he said, “The one who showed mercy toward him.” Then Jesus said to him, “Go and do the same.”

You must understand the tension that exists here between a Jew and a Samaritan.  There were racial, ethical, religious, and cultural tensions and differences and hatred that divided these two peoples.  We could very easily say that the Jews and the Samaritans were enemies.  Then Jesus basically tells the people and the lawyer that asked the question – someone who was very knowledgeable about the Mosaic law – that these are the ones they are to love unconditionally.  Unconditionally love those with whom we might have racial, ethical, religious, cultural, political or any other differences.  That is exceedingly hard to do if we do it without God.  With God all things are possible, even loving someone that despises you.

To unconditionally love an enemy is to look beyond the differences and despite what separates us love them anyway.  It does not mean to ignore or disregard what might be sinful issues, but to deal with them appropriately, which is a difficult thing to do.  Dealing with sin in someone’s life is a most difficult task, but it is a selfless task.  We live in a time of great sin, but that is no different than any other time in human history.  Addressing sin in our own lives is a constant battle that we will never win without the assistance of the Holy Spirit and help from the fellowship of believers.  When we have men of God who are actively fighting against their own sinful tenancies than we will have more Christian men who are selfless. I will echo our Lord Christ Jesus’ words when He exhorted the Lawyer and the crowd to go and do the same as the Samaritan.

The Loving Man of God

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Watch any modern television show or movie and you will see men portrayed in a number of ways that are anything but what they should be, men.  These versions of men are usually shallow and singularly minded.  Now depending on the plot, these men may be self-focused, dim witted, short sighted, uncaring, chauvinistic, and on I could go.  But even the “good guys” seem shallow and marginally relatable to an actual living breathing male.

Generally, I think there are several different views of what men are to be. Even if I say a loving man or a man of love, that imagery is still not necessarily what I am attempting to get at.  We have to use different terms that better define what we are looking at to get a clearer picture of the contrast in worldview.  And my main categories here are just that, worldviews.

Category 1: The Secular Man

We can break this category down into 2 main subcategories.  We see these in much of our culture.  These are displayed time and again on the most popular television sitcoms and movies.

Subcategory 1: The Brute Man

The Brute Man is best summed up in “big on brawn but light on brains.” You could also describe him as tall and muscular with an overbearing attitude.  Physicality defines the mightiness of one’s manliness.  The old football saying that football is a “man’s man” sport would define the Brute Man’s mentality.  Men of this class can tear apart a car engine with ease and reassemble it, but cannot find their way around the kitchen, or know how to run the washing machine. 

These men are intelligent men in the field of “manly” things, but are not suitable for home living.  They are incapable of grocery shopping or other simple tasks like picking up the kids from school.  The Brute Man can only handle so many tasks in a day and only tasks that are repetitive in nature and require little brain power and, of course, only to his liking.  This is one of the versions that modern man has devolved into.

Subcategory 2: The Domiciled Man

The Domiciled Man is best summed up with the “yes man” adage.  The Domiciled Man does not want to rock the boat, as it were, and so does as he is told no matter how he is treated.  Sometimes he is rewarded for being obedient, but many times it is just expected behavior. Another way to describe this one is as a defeated dog.  The dog still has that drive to be a dog, but when he hears the masters voice, all the fight in the dog melts away.

The Domiciled Man is also portrayed on television and in movies.  He is usually a husband who wants to be the head of the house but is easily “put in his place” by the withholding of food or sex by his wife.  The Domiciled Man tries in vain to hold his ground, to put his foot down.  But inevitably, within days or sometimes within hours, he will cave, and usually to his own humiliation and to the laughter of everyone else. Many standup comedians use this approach; many sitcoms do the same thing.  The Domiciled Man is what all Husbands turn into because of the power that their wives hold over them, through food and sex. 

Category 2: The Biblical Man

The Biblical Man, as I have called him, differs from the Secular Man described above in one major characteristic; his love.  The Biblical Man starts there, with the Bible, the Holy Scripture, the special revelation from God Himself.  And we are image bearers of God.  Therefore, we are to love as He loved.  But before I get into all that let me say this:  God is not a God OF love.  He IS love, but He is also grace, mercy, goodness, and righteousness.  We must not forget that He is a God of judgment, a God of wrath, and He is holy, and one day He will deal with unrepentant sinners.  My point here is that we can only love because He first loved us, 1 John 3:16-18:

 16 We know love by this, that He laid down His life for us; and we ought to lay down our lives for the brethren. 17 But whoever has the world’s goods, and sees his brother in need and closes his heart against him, how does the love of God abide in him? 18 Little children, let us not love with word or with tongue, but in deed and truth.

Verse 16 is the key verse here.  We can only know love because He loved us, we see His example, and should seek to follow it. This means to sacrifice for one another, and not specifically and only speaking of the ultimate sacrifice, but any type of service rendered to a Brother or Sister in Christ.  Verse 17 is an example in how we might live it out, and verse 18 is encouragement that we must go beyond intentions and thoughts.

The Biblical Man is motivated by love to sacrifice for the well-being of others.  He has that love because that love has been placed in him since the Spirit of Christ – the Holy Spirit – resides in him.  We must be motivated by love. The love I am referring to is the love that Jesus Christ demonstrated by leaving the throne of heaven, by living a sorrow-filled life, and by dying on a cross.  This was not an emotional love, the feeling love, that motivated Him.  No, this was a love that interfered in the lives of those who needed His intervention. He loved others so much that He stopped and interjected Himself and His love, grace, and mercy into their lives.  Vast contrast from what so many are demanding we do today in the name of love.  But, men, how are we to love others?  If we are married, we are told very clearly in Ephesians 5:25-29:

 “25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, 26 so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless. 28 So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; 29 for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church.” 

Now, obviously there is a tremendous amount that we could unpack here.  And in context, Paul is writing about what Christ accomplished for the universal foundation of the church on this side of glory.  But marriage is to be a picture of this.  The love and devotion of the husband in the marriage union is to be a picture of what Christ accomplished and the continual relationship between the church and Jesus Christ.

Husbands, love your wives sacrificially.  I know it is difficult, but we are not talking about ‘me’ time.  Men are to be leaders and servants.  You are to demonstrate what it takes to run the house by running the house.  You are to demonstrate unselfish love by loving unselfishly, and “me” time is by definition, selfish. If we look at the meaning of the word husband a little bit, we can get a better understanding of the responsibilities that we have.

Husband is related to the Latin word we get husbandry from and it speaks to the care and cultivation of gardens or crops.  This is the care and cultivation of our wives, continuing to bring her up spiritually.  It means to defend her spiritually, to keeping the weeds and pests and the vermin out that would destroy and eat away at the roots or prevent her from blossoming fully.  This, of course, does not mean that our wives are less valuable than we are, but that they are less than what they can be.  Since men are to be the head and the example, we must be spiritually sound ourselves.  You cannot be a leader in something unless you are knowledgeable. It is just that simple, and simple acts can mean a world of difference to your wives. 

Verse 28 and 29 speak to how we men are to treat, cherish, and nurture our wives.  It is how we would cherish and nurture our own bodies.  We are to (and if it were possible) present our wives blameless and spotless before the True and Just Judge.  That means our wives must know sound Biblical doctrine and we must teach it, we must live it, and we definitely must exemplify it.

But a man is not to start demonstrating a selfless love only when he gets married.  He should be doing that long beforehand.  Those that are not yet married are to conduct themselves as if preparing for marriage by keeping themselves pure before a Holy God.  They should also be learning what they can in how to be a man of God, and what it takes to exemplify the love of Christ to his bride day in and day out.  For those of us who are married, let me pause and echo the Apostle Paul and exhort all of us to excel still more in that selfless love to our wives, children, and folks that we interact with every day.  Now, obviously as married men we should not be showing the same type and devoted love that we have for our wives to just anyone.  But we are to still show that selfless love.  How do we do that? Let me call you back to 1 John 3:17, “But whoever has the world’s goods, and sees his brother in need and closes his heart against him, how does the love of God abide in him?”

It is a simple act of a phone call to check in and see how others are doing, or getting together for lunch.  Help out a brother or sister with chores around the home when they are unable.  A demonstration of our love for one another does not require us to go to great lengths.  A word of encouragement and stopping by to pray with one another is a great way of demonstrating that we love one another.

A man of God is known because he loves the Lord and he loves His people. John 13:35 says that, “By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.” Let your love be known in your marriage, in your homes, and in your places of work.  But in order to love as Christ loves, you must not leave out Christ.  Jesus must be the center and the reason for your love.  You must communicate Him by preaching the gospel of Jesus Christ to those that need to hear the true gospel, repent, believe, and be saved.

One of the greatest ways to love one another is to be involved in one another’s lives.  Help with chores and provide for needs, but knowing what is going on in the lives of the Brethren means that you are connected.  Pray for one another, communicate, confess sin to one another, be a community of believers working through the sanctification process – daily working toward the ultimate goal of becoming more Christlike.  We do not become more like Christ by ourselves.  We need the Word of God, we need the work of the Spirit, we need one another, and we need men of God who love.